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The Age Factor
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DEC-10-05
3:9:50
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: The Age Factor
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Submitted Anonymously
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41-50
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There is another issue that factors into men, at least those my age, tending to look at younger women. I've never been married and am looking forward to having kids in a marriage. I'd say that most women my age or older have already had kids, don't want anymore or can't have anymore kids. Thus biological factors are pushing men like myself to look for younger women. Physically, I have no problem being attracted to women slightly older than myself. But lets face it, if I want to start a family, I'll have to look at younger women.
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OCT-30-05
23:42:7
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
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That's okay Itinerary4me, thank you for clarifying your statements of "
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OCT-30-05
12:1:14
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: The Age Factor
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To Anonymous,
It appears that there is a miss understanding as to what I wrote, of course this misunderstanding is to be expected when it comes to the opposite sex, so let me try and clarify.
You state "most men still seek youth", the proper statement would be most men seek a youthful mind and a body that is capable of doing youthful things within reason of ones age, such as walk, hike, ski, ect.
I spoke nothing about looks, "nose hair, ear hair, sagging skin and puffy eyes", it was about physical health. Yes most people are slightly over weight, including myself.
Someone more than slightly over weight is unhealthy and most likely will have health problems as they age.
As Christians we are called to maintain our bodies for they are temples of Gods indwelling spirit, and as such we should put forth the effort to maintain them.
As I see it, if you (male or female) cannot control the physical, are you in control spiritually?
I am not looking for "Twiggy", just someone that is in control spiritually and physically, which I believe you can not have one with out the other. AND NO! I am not saying that someone that is out of shape because of an illness is out of control spiritually, so don't go there.
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OCT-28-05
22:34:13
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: The Age Factor
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Nannette
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51-60
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This is mostly in response to Itinerary4me's comment:
I just did a search on our site of women from 47-55 and we have some pretty hot women! But some men don't even include them in their search category to see. But *I* say, if they're that shallow, I wouldn't want them in the first place! Give me a pudgey guy who's gonna appreciate me and not be so shallow, because I WILL get wrinkles and WILL get pudgey. I will NEVER look the same as I did at 25, not after giving birth to his 3 wonderful children and not THIS side of heaven!
And what happens when all these shallow men who are looking for much younger women find one? What happens when SHE gets to be 47-55? Do you exchange her for someone much younger then too! What an ill-informed blanket statement to make about women! In my own relationship, who do you think is out of shape the most? It's certainly NOT ME!
I get weary of men writing to me based on my photo telling me how hot I look, but then when I look at their preferences, they would never consider someone my age at all! There are far more beautiful women on this site than some say they think I am, if the men will just look in the first place.
Some men love Full-Figured Women too! Who wants Twiggy when you can have curves? So that so-called desire certainly doesn't apply to all men.
Some women are also guilty about making blanket statements in regard to "all men are looking for Barbies half their age." That annoys me as well. It's simply not true as attested to by our success stories. Just look at the photos. They are ALL beautiful couples, but they are all NOT Barbies and Kens!
Most of the women who write me in anger because men aren't interested in them are, according to their profiles, overweight. But I notice they too are looking for Ken. Of course Ken wants Barbie and visa versa. I thinks folks should look for someone comparable to their lifestyle.
If you like to eat and don't like to exercise, why would you want a body-builder or fitness buff? I am married, but I know a lot of people who would not come across as heart-throb by looking at their photo. But knowing them in person, their personality, humor, kindness - they are quite a catch! Fortunately, they are already married so don't have to worry about someone rejecting them because of their photo. Why can't both men and women get past the photo and get to know someone! Once you talk on the phone and joke around and get to know someone as a friend, then decide.
DO THIS LITTLE TEST! Sit in church and look at the people you admire - they can be married. The women and men who aren't the best looking in the world, but that you like a lot because they are sweet, funny, kind, whatever traits you like about them. Then think, if I saw their photo online, would I blow them off? Wow! Think of all the folks online you are passing up because you aren't attracted to the photo! I don't think the photo is what attracts people in person! It's the personality, temperament, sweetness, sense of humor! So think about that next time you are passing up a profile! Then make it your goal to be "friends" with folks that you do have something in common with, even though you don't like the photo.
Now, why some women and men put up photos that look bleak, I don't know! Unless it is a gorgeous photo, you should always have a smile, I think!
Pudgieness, baldness, wrinkles, grey hair, all are okay with me as long as they have a great sense of humor and a kind heart! But then again, I'm not looking cause God already found me my true love 20 years ago!
God bless,
Nannette
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OCT-25-05
23:41:42
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Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys
RE: The Age Factor
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Submitted Anonymously
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Itinerary4me,
Sorry, I disagree. You are definitely heterosexual, my meaning being, you are certainly not looking at men, because if you were you'd see the same slackness, unhealthy pot bellies, nose hair, ear hair, sagging skin and puffy eyes that you find so unattractive in "ageing women". True, women do have to work harder to maintain her figure, but a lot of us do, but most men still seek youth. A 20yr/o man seeks a 20yr/o girl, a 30 yr/o man seeks a 20yr/o girl, a 40 yr/o man seeks a 20 yr/o girl, it never ends, on and on. If men think that 15 years later and she's 35 or 40 and you men are now 60 and over, and you have to get up and pop a pill to be intimate with her, pass gas as you get up from bed (because that just happens more now) get your teeth out of their soaking solution, and you try not to give in to the bad hip that's been paining you since the last blue pill you popped...and you think she's going to like that... I don't think so! I'm 47 and I don't even find that attractive....and yes, there are a few "rare birds" out there that do marry men their dad's age or grandpa's age and it works...but, it's rare. (I'm not talking about the gold digger/Mr.Money bags marriage). I'm talking about normal older guy seeking youthful beauty....to each his own...
[Editor's Note: I wish this were NOT anonymous because this message came from one of the women on this site that would be labeled a 10+! They DO exist! - Nannette]
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